What does a Godly Woman look like? 17 things you need to know.
Have you ever wondered what a godly woman looks like? I surely have.
I was listening to a radio show recently, and someone on the panel said with passion in his voice, “As a man, I am guilty of looking on the outside for beauty. But, I don’t just want any woman. I want a Godly woman.” Another panel member quickly responded, “I agree with you. But the trouble is finding one.”
That left me disheartened. I wanted to call in and say, “we are here.” But it got me thinking. Is it that we are hard to find, or is it because who we are and show to the world, does not identify the God in us?
What does God look for in a Godly woman?
Last week, we explored beauty and what the bible has to say about it. Above all, we learned that God’s thoughts and priorities are not like man’s. So God doesn’t focus on the outside, but more on the heart. When choosing the second King for Israel,
“the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”” 1 Samuel 16:7
My friend, this tells me that I need to work on my heart, my character. I need to glorify God, not in how much I adorn myself with the latest trends or the best makeup, but how I live my life. But let’s be careful. Matthew 23:28 warns, “in the same way, on the outside, you appear to people as righteous, but on the inside, you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness.” As much as we can trick other people, let’s not fool ourselves in thinking that God doesn’t know our true feelings and intentions.
So, what does a Godly Woman look like?
In order to understand what a godly woman looks like, I went to God in prayer and worship. I enjoyed studying and learning over the past few weeks. To do this justice, I will list out the qualities I found and spend time on each character quality over the next few weeks.
Godly Woman Characteristics
A Godly Woman’s characteristics:
- Believer
- Not malicious
- Temperate
- Trustworthy
- Adorns herself appropriately
- Submits to her husband
- Gentle
- Known for her good deeds
- Discerning and wise
- Hospitable
- Trains her children in the Truth
- Loves others
- Teachers of the Word
- Serves in the Church
- Manage their homes
- Virtuous and held in high esteem
- Hard Worker
Girl, let’s not get disheartened. I see you over there! Trust me, I felt the same way and had a come to Jesus moment.
As I studied and identified these characteristics, I felt my spirit getting lower and lower. But in all honesty, I felt God laughing at me when I exclaimed, “this woman isn’t born yet!” And I felt Him lay on my heart, that this isn’t a checklist. These are all important characteristics for godly women, but we attain them during different life stages.
Reflection
Food for thought:
There was a burden of relief settling within my soul. I am not several of these things on this list, but I am working on some of these areas in my life. I am blessed and a work in progress, and I am thankful for that. If I were perfect, then I would not need Christ. So my friend, don’t make these attributes of a godly woman dampen you, smile and be affirmed in your faith that God is with you and He will do great work within you.
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Prayer of a godly woman:
Holy Father, being a woman, is hard, especially so for different parts of the world. Many women have had a terrible life, but we know that this was not part of Your original design. Sin has corrupted the earth. We lift our voices to you. Remind this beautiful woman of God that is reading here today that she is not inferior. We know the great blessings that abound for persons experiencing tribulations. Protect this beautiful woman that is reading this post, and may you multiply her blessings. As she reviews this list of characteristics of a godly woman, may she not be downcast that not every item fits her perfectly. In her imperfectness, You have such a beautiful canvas for mastery. May she open her heart and let Your work be done. In Jesus’ name. Amen
May God’s grace, mercy, and peace be with you.
There are definitely several on that list that I need to get better at… The situation I am in, tests my patience so much, and learning to control this tongue of mine, is not easy when the attacks against my character/person, can be rather brutal. I am learning, just not quite got it all down yet. I appreciate this list so I can work on these areas. I want to be a light for God, I want people to see Him in me, not just because I said I am a Christian and I believe in our Jesus and what He did for us. I want others to see Him. I want others to know Him, like I do. My situation, the other person brings in sin, all the time. No matter how much I pray, it just never seems to stop. I pray and bless the home so many times, only to have it thwarted by the other individual. Maybe I need to do the prayer over the home daily, blessings and protection, rather than when something major happens and it is quite obvious sin is reigning. I would LOVE for this individual to find God. To be set free by Him… I just need to keep faith it will happen, I believe, because I believe this person will be a great person for God, when they do accept Him.
In Jesus’ Name. This is a journey and not a final destination. I will be praying for you Rachelle.
I loved this article. Thank you for what you do!
To God be the glory
thank you so much for this, i have been praying a lot about being a submitted spirit filled woman of God, especially now more than ever in my life, i want to be example of Christ to my family and people that around me.
I’ve been greatly blessed reading 2 articles by Godly woman.
To God be the glory. Thank you Oluwatomilayo.
I love this site. My church celebrates Our Women’s Ministry each year the first week of June. I would like to request permission to use part of your writing on our website (acknowledging your site as my reference) so that my sisters would be aware of your comments. May I have permission to use part of your piece on my church website?
Hi Dr. Barnes,
Thanks for connecting with me. I am more than happy to grant you permission for this purpose. You can also reach me via email, forchrist@godlywoman911.com if you require any further resource or information. Continue to do great work for the Kingdom.
Speaking of a Godly woman, it is very difficult for many of us single men to meet one these days.
Hi Tim,
Thanks so much for commenting. It is not easy finding a godly man or woman – it will take time. Pray and seek God’s guidance on the one he has chosen for you. Remember, no one is perfect :).
This is a great article. God bless you. Looking forward to more
Thanks so much Catherine. Praise be to God.
No such thing as a Godly Woman these days unfortunately.
Thanks so much for messaging. I encourage you to continue to pray and seek God’s guidance. There may just be a godly woman right in your presence :). Blessings.
When God chooses your mate.the bible says write the vision and make it plan thats what i did.I talked to God about what i wanted in a husband and i also said work on me as well.Hes a man after Gods ❤ if he can love God he can love me as well.The has been beautiful and a struggle,My husband has PTSD i didnt know it until we were getting ready to fly the friendly skies. I was in shocked it was a family trip he got off the plane but i continued to go on i talked to God but he gave me peace that everything will be alrite.When you have Gods peace its a feeling that my God is in control of the situation. You have to trust God that the choice he picked for your mate is heaven sent.We as Women are not the hunters the Men are.I tried to be the hunter and it failed but when i got the knowledge of the word what God rules are i was enlightened. Pray more now about my husband then i did my 1st marriage.I just want to encourage the women that God wants what best for us just get out of the way and let him do it. The benefits are Out of this World God bless.
Thanks for sharing.
I have a quick question. How do traits number 6 and 7 apply to unmarried women? From the question you are responding to, the one from the man looking for a Godly woman, how is he supposed to know she submits to her husband and raises children in truth? Unless of course he is marrying an already married woman with children?
Hi Maria,
Thanks for this great question. The traits outlined were not a response to the question I heard, but in fact, the question sparked my interest and research in the Bible as to what the Word of God highlights as characteristics of a Godly woman. But I love your question because it provides an opportunity for greater insight, which you will see over the next few weeks (I will be going into detail each trait). If you may note in the article, I highlighted that no woman will have all of these traits right away, it is something that we grow into during different seasons of our lives. But when looking for a partner, you would want to see hints of the characteristic in how they behave. So for submission, does she have to be the one in control in all situations? Is she overly aggressive in her speech and behavior? In regards to raising her children in truth, you would want to look and see if currently, she lives the Truth in the Bible. Does she study and pray daily? If she is around little ones (not hers but maybe family or community), how does she respond; does she use opportunities to teach them lessons from the Bible?
Above all, no matter how much a person may want to ‘show’ these characteristics, we are encouraged to seek Christ first and allow Him to guide us in the choosing of our mate. We see the outside, but God knows the heart.
Does that help? So great to hear from you.
When looking for a spouse, amen can oearn a lot just by observing subtle behaviors and personality traits in the ones we they are interested in.
If you are gentle and would submit to a husband if you had one, you can rest assured that he will notice it in the way you are seen interacting with men, women and children.
A man will also read your body language and be able to see signs that you are a strong, confident woman but that you are so secure in your identity that you don’t feel the need to “act tough”. They will see a steadfastness in you and a steady resolve but also feel a calm, peace in your countenance and feel respected and admired when around you.
Single women can focus on being all she has been called to be and be actively serving in the ways God has called you to serve and know that the man God has for you a WILL notice!
I hope this helps!
Hi Rebekah,
Thanks for sharing.
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